Habit No. 5 Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

When was the last time you stopped talking long enough to truly understand the other person? Too often, we listen with one ear, more anxious to respond than to understand. And yet listening – genuine listening – is one of the most powerful habits of a highly effective person. Diabetes is sure to stir up many emotions. While you need to express them, your desire to listen should come first.

Why? Listening to your doctor and diabetes educator is how you learn the practical skills of self-care. What about your family members and employer? They need to be understood too, especially if you want them to change some of their behaviors. When someone feels understood and appreciated, he or she is far more open to your needs.

Listen with your mind and your heart. Let the other person know you understand. Then make yourself understand – in a clear honest way, seeing the situation through the other person’s eyes. Can you see how practicing Habit 5 will greatly enhance your Healthy Coping ability?

When you seek first to understand, then to be understood, you open the door to creative win-win solutions.

Differences are no longer problems, but stepping-stones to Habit #6 Synergize.